I’m not quite sure how this post will end up. There’s a lot on my heart today. I don’t want to sound condescending towards anyone or sound like I’m better than anyone, because I am far from perfect (ask my husband!). But, my heart is breaking lately in regards to the witness of women’s lives for Christ.
“That’s not very Christian like … for how high and mighty she thinks she is.”
That’s from a message I got from a friend this morning in regards to a Christian woman she knows. It was how she ended her message to me in regards to the way she has been treated by this Christian for the past year.
To me it’s sad in a few different ways … 1. The Christian woman that she is speaking about is revered by her church friends as “sweet” and “gracious”. Yet, there have been multiple accounts from individuals outside her church that have described her as “vicious”, a “hypocrite”, and “manipulative”. And 2. My friend is not walking with the Lord – based on wounds from the past with church and the hypocrisy of Christians that she’s seen around her. The witness of this Christian woman is not helping my friend find the Lord, it is hindering her from ever wanting to be a part of it.
The church is a body of broken people. Every one that steps through the door is a broken person battling through different trials (Romans 3:23). Unfortunately, once we’re saved, sometimes we forget where we have been and the battles we’ve conquered. Pride is a slippery slope. My husband often repeats 1 Corinthians 10:12 “Therefore let everyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he falls” (ESV) and Proverbs 16:18 “Pride goes before destruction; and a haughty spirit before a fall” (NKJV). Even as a young teenager, pride was his downfall – and he ended up paying a price for it. So now, even after being a Christian for 15 years, he still has to constantly remind himself that he is no better than anyone and he can do nothing without Christ. Sometimes that’s VERY hard to remember – especially as women.
As women, we have such a tendency to judge and compare ourselves with each other constantly. We display pride when we see women, especially those we don’t get along with, fall or not do as well as we are doing. We display jealousy when women have something we want: new clothes, fabulous dinner parties, fancy home decor, fun vacations. And usually, pride and jealousy bring on a less fun emotions if we allow it to manifest within us, like depression, self-righteousness, or anger.
We all do it. It’s part of our nature. The thing that’s not part of our sinful nature but IS part of our spirit as new creations, is to rise above and capture those thoughts and give them to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). We should be completely content in Him (easier said than done, am I right?). But if we are consistently asking the Lord to empower us through His Spirit to change our way of thinking, He will be faithful to do just that.
There’s no excuse for treating others poorly. Don’t let your jealousy of someone or pride in yourself determine how you treat others. Everyone has a story, and a journey to and with the Lord. Let’s STOP hindering others from seeing Christ, and start living and treating others in a way that will help them see the Lord and desire to be called His daughter.
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